Well, a far lighter topic today, I think, than the average weighty matter. Actually, it's more of a theoretical/practical life question, if you will: How do you give a gift that's too big?
I was pondering an event from a few years ago the other day... my sister had recently bought an N64 with a couple of games. We both loved playing it. But one thing she really had her eye on was The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time, rightly hailed as the peak of th N64. But of course, they weren't making N64 games any more... and used coppies weren't cheap.
She had come down with a bug that week, and was laid up in bed. I felt so sorry for the poor girl, and I decided to take some of my money and try and cheer her up. So, I hit the used games store in Lakewood, which was our best source for N64 games. I got her a few I thought she might moderately like- Starfox 64, Star Wars Episode 1 Racer- plus one that I thought she would greatly enjoy- Mario 64, I think it was. I saw the Legend of Zelda there, too... but it was forty dollars, and I was already spending twenty or more... so I left it there.
I returned home and gave her the Starfox and Podracer games, which she thanked me for...
Only then, I started feeling bad. I was trying to cheer her up, wasn't I? And for that, money should be no object, shouldn't it? And yet I had passed up that Zelda game she wanted... So, I got back in the car and ran down to the store and before I could stop myself, splurged for the money on the Legend of Zelda. "Oh well," I thought, "if 60-70 bucks can make her happier while she's sick, it's worth it."
It was getting near night time when I returned, and I went in and presented her with the Mario 64. Her reaction was a little more subdued than I'd hoped, but she still seemed glad to have it. Well, fair enough. It was one of her favorite games, but she was sick, after all... so, I turned around to go. And then, as I was leaving, I turned around with a smile and said "Oh yes... one more thing!" and pulled the Legend of Zelda out of my pocket. Here it was, as the cost of forty dollars- a big deal to an unemployed guy with dwindling cash reserves- was the game that she had been waiting for, hoping for, searching for, being delivered by wonderful older brother to brighten her day and make her forget all of her woes...
"Another one?" She asked, in a slightly annoyed and exasperated voice, as she took the cartige.
OOF!
Well, that took the wind out of my sails! I had fallen prey to the classic snare of the TBG (Too Big Gift). It's the kind of wonderful, dream-come-true completely-perfect-for-someone kinda expenditure... that's so overwhelming it can't actually be appreciated. I've run up against it a few times in my life- and I've never figured out the propper way to handle it.
This is the dilema: Let's say you give someone who likes classic cars a '57 Chevy. They're shocked, agog, grateful, awed- "I can't believe you would do this!" they shout. All well and good- now, ideally you're not in it for the praise that they are lavishing your way... after all, what kind of pal are you if you only do good things to get praise in return- but at least you can tell for certain that this is something they enjoy!
Now, let's say you have more than one classic car, and you, being some kinda billionaire- want to give the whole collection to them. And so, you say "Come with me..." and lead them to a garage full of a dozen classic cars- each one hand-picked for them. You know that of their dream list, at least 10 of these 12 are on it, and there is nothing more exciting to you than to see the look of joy on their face when you tell them that the whole garage and everything in it is theirs!
"Uh... wow. Gee, thanks..." they say, politely, still staring.
Not quite so boundlessly happy as you would hope? The problem is, the gift is so big that it COMPLETELY overwhelms them so that they can't even feel the excitement of having what they always wanted- it's simply too big to wrap their minds around. And even though it's ten times better than just the one car you were going to present, they may never be as thankful as they would have or as happy about the gift than they would have with that one classic car.
Of course, your other choice is to ration the gift, spreading it out over a distance to preserve the awe. "Wowie zowie! You gave me a car!" They say. Then "Wow... you just gave me a car last month- now you're giving me another one? I'm shocked!" Soon "Wow... another car... cool!" And by the 5th or 6th, they echo my sister's disbelieving, somewhat annoyed "ANOTHER one?" The repetition, the stretch over time... the thrill has worn off and the extraordinary has become mundane. And the irritation that human beings generally feel over the unknown and the uncontrolable asserts itself even over the recieving of gifts- "How much longer is this going to go? When does it end? How much do I get before then?" In short... the gift is taken for granted even though, at the beginning, a single piece of it, just an inkling, would have been more thrilling than they ever could have imagined.
So, how do you deal with a TBG? Me, I've never figured it out... and it's kinda put a downer on some wonderful suprises; either they've been too big and the other person didn't 'get' what they were getting, or it's been too drawn out, and just drawn their ire. Any ideas, o faithful readers? Someday, I'd like to lick this one!
But you know, something else occurred to me while I was pondering this. I started out really wondering, and hoping someone reading this might have the answer, how a giver can deal with TBG Syndrome and overcome it. Any helpful hints'd be great. But there's a bigger question that applies here: How do the recievers overcome TBG Syndrome and appreciate what they truly have? It's a question that's far more important in our daily lives because every single one of us has been given the UTBG (Ultimate Too Big Gift)!
Let's get a few things straight. Jesus Christ is God. You may believe that, you may not- doesn't change the fact that it's true.
But for the sake of explanation, go with me on this one, okay? Jesus Christ is God, and God is Omnipotent. He is also Omnsicient, Omnipresent... which basically means He has All Power, is All-Seeing, All-Knowing, Everywhere at once- because no Everywhere has been made that is bigger than He is; He fills the whole thing and then some! He is infinite, He can go anywhere, do anything, He can be and see and hear and sense and plenty of verbs that we haven't even thought of, with a mere thought. He can make all of the universe with a word. He can create life with a breath. And He chose to set aside ALL of that power, that glory, that LITERAL Infinity... and take up residence in a human body.
Think about it for a minute. WHOA. That is an INCREDIBLE thing! To take Invincibility and trade it for being able to stub your toe? To take seeing everything everywhere that ever happened or will and trade it for, at best, 20/20 vision that's stuck in the 'now?' To take the ability to go anywhere and be everywhere and trade it in for having to walk, to getting tired out after a few miniscule miles when you were the one that CREATED THE WHOLE PLANET???? Talk about a losing proposition! And it's not like He was forced to do this from some 'Divine Rulebook'... He CHOSE to do it!
Now, shifting aside from that- incredible and mind-boggling revelation as it is, let's take a look at a second issue- Humanity, in general and individually, is as completely flawed as God is completely perfect. Sure, not everybody is a Hitler or a Bin Laden- but everybody does wrong things, every day. Actions, thoughts, words... even when you're doing nothing, sometimes you failing to do the right thing. And not one of us is perfect. Every single one of us is imperfect, has done something wrong. Yes, even Mother Teresa! Yes, even Ghandi! Yes, even Princess Diana! Mr. Rogers is a sinner! St. Peter isn't perfect! Even the 'Holy Virgin Mother' Mary was sinful and flawed and, by the standards of perfect, evil. As the Bible says, "For ALL have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God."
Now, the penalty for sin is death. If you want to get into that, see some of the previous blogs I've written on the subject. For the moment, once again, go with me, here, and we'll continue. That means that everybody deserves death. Not just Hitler and Bin Laden... the little kid playing on the street right outside your window. That Best Friend that you so enjoy spending time with. The love of your life, your better half, your very heart and soul. Your sweet, kindly old grandmother who is the nicest person in the world. EVERYONE deserves to die.
Stop and think about that for a moment, again. WHOA. Now THAT is a downer!!!
Okay, if you'll take a moment to stop tying the noose, put away the pistol, and step away from the edge of the bridge, I'll try to un-depress you a little. See, here's a third litte factor to take a look at: There's one person that didn't sin. Can you guess who? Yep, that's right, back to little consideration #1... Jesus Christ. The only person in a human body who never comitted a single sin. Never did a single thing wrong. Never hurt anybody, never lied, never took a thing that didn't belong to him, never thought lustfully about a woman, never desired something that belonged to someone else, never cheated, never spoke wrongly, never dishonored his parents... He never did ANYTHING wrong. Not a single thing. In His whole life.
So, here's unfair for you: Every single one of us has done soemthing wrong. Every single one of us is a dirty rotten sinner- and really, when you look at things- we don't have life too bad. Meanwhile, Jesus does absolutely nothing wrong, ever. And what does He get?
He gets killed.
Whoa, hold on, back up the truck... do you realize what those words mean? GOD died. The perfect, infinite, omni-everything being who made everything and could form the Earth with a thought... DIED. He went from litterally EVERYTHING- being everywhere, seeing everything, knowing everything, being the source of life itself- to DEATH. To not a spark of life left in Him! Let me say that again, in case it didn't register: GOD DIED.
What the heck??? How is that even POSSIBLE??? I mean, God the Father has always been there and will always be there, so it's not like the universe was left unsupervised... but Jesus Christ is also God, and He died. God is not supposed to die... it kind of goes against... reality! I mean, shouldn't there be some sort of rule against that? It doesn't seem like it shoul